Grief

You may be wondering if what you are feeling is normal or natural after the loss or change you are going through. You might be thinking, is this a pathological condition or a personality disorder? Feelings such as sadness, anger, frustration, emotional pain, regret, or guilt are normal and natural. Grief is when you have those feelings after the death of a loved one, a divorce, loss of faith, loss of a career, or loss of health, among others. 

If you are going through a divorce possibly you are grieving that person. Grief is realizing that now, when you want to reach out to that person that has been there for, you discover that you can’t go to them for help or comfort anymore. 

Maybe you are thinking “but what happens when I am grieving that someone has never been there for me?” You can grieve someone that has not died. Grief is also the feeling you have when you realize that someone you love or you would think is supposed to be there for you has never accomplished that role in your life. Or, grieving is as well the feelings you have toward that person that was supposed to demonstrate love to you, and when you think about him or her you just see negative moments and even maltreatment. That person is unavailable to you, and you feel that constant emotional pain.

“Grief is the feeling of reaching out for someone who has never been there for me, only to discover when I need them one more time, they still aren’t there for me.”

We all experience and express grief in a unique way and in our own time. “Everyone grieves in their own way and at their own pace.” You are going to grieve based on your personal relationship with who or what was lost. Also, as each person and relationship is different, you are going to deal with each loss in a different way. 

At New Hope Psychology Center we can help you grieve in a healthy way so you can process and manage the feelings, thoughts, and memories you are having regarding your loss. There are evidence-based treatments to work with grief. You are not alone in this process! We would like to accompany you in your healing journey!